For most men, a woman is a mystery. Even the genius astrophysicist Stephen Hawking seems to agree.
Indeed, women are hard to read most times. Women always say “I’m fine” or “I’m okay” when really, they are not. These kinds of mixed messages often confuse men. But if these two opposite sexes need to start a relationship, understanding between each other is necessary.
Often, people say that the longevity of a relationship between men and women is up to the woman. But what about woman-to-woman and man-to-man relationships? Who, then, will do the work? Suffice to say, a relationship is a two-way street. Both have to work hard to make a better partnership; men are no exception.
The Ohio State University Extension discusses that men and women have different ways of communicating; knowing this difference may be the key to gaining more understanding and less fighting between the opposite sexes.
Difference No. 1: Women communicate through subtext; men communicate matter of factly
Referring to the example above, sometimes, when there is a problem, a woman will say, “I’m okay.” In truth, she’s not okay and wants her partner to be sensitive enough to take a hint. However, men often take things as it is. When you say you’re okay, that is the end of the conversation.
This often leads to arguments. One party will feel that the other person cannot read between the lines. On the other hand, the other party will get confused and defend himself by saying that he asked, and she responded by saying all is well.
Relationship experts, therefore, advise that to make a better partnership, you need to understand where the other person is coming from. For women, they can learn to say things more clearly; for men, they can learn to be more sensitive about their partner’s real feelings.
Difference No. 2: Women likes to share feelings; men don’t
This may be contrary to the first difference mentioned above, but that’s how humans are. We often contradict ourselves.
This specific difference refers to the way men and women deal with problems. When dealing with problems, women focus on the emotional aspect. Men, on the other hand, like to deal with problems in a straightforward manner. Men often deal with problems based on facts and immediately seeks a solution. This often puts women off; sometimes, a man’s approach can be seen as lacking empathy.
Because of this, the original problem stems into another problem simply because of having a different approach.
Difference No. 3: Showing affection
Often, women speak with words, and men speak with action when it comes to love language. This difference in the way of showing affection can sometimes lead to miscommunication. Women may feel that they don’t hear their partner say, “I love you,” often enough. Men on the other hand do not feel the need to say it because not having to say it means having a solid trust with their partner.
It is important to note, however that the differences mentioned above are not always applicable to everybody. These differences are only based on observations and research, but as humans are naturally more complex, some of these differences are still debatable.
Each relationship is different, and so is each member of that relationship. To gain more understanding of the other party, patience is key. You already know that there may be differences in conveying feelings, and what you see may be different from what is hidden underneath.
It’s important to ask, and it is also important to answer with clarity and honesty. Recognize that each of you operates differently, and be more sensitive about subtleties.
Making her happy
For men, it is important to understand that what a woman wants is to feel connected and secure with the relationship. And sometimes this happens when men buy a woman a ring, a significant symbol of his dedication. But it is also necessary to know that women do not feel more emotions than men. Science has proven that there is no difference between what men and women feel.
A person’s ability to express feelings varies, and the way you express things can be changed. If you love your partner, there is no harm in expressing what you truly feel inside. It is an old notion that men don’t show feelings; nowadays, it is more admirable when men show sensitivity.
Men who do not look for lasting partnerships may think that they need to listen to this kind of advice. But there are studies saying that men who are in a long-term relationship are happier and more productive. Therefore, if you want to be truly happy with life, understand your partner, buy a ring for her, and make her happy.