Growing up can be exciting and scary at the same time. Having fun with your first salary, going on new adventures with your friends, and building your careers. The more important fact is the majority of the elderly regret that they didn’t become more financially stable. Second, they wish they could be more of themselves when they were younger and not care about what others think of them.
Here are things you should know before taking your first step to adulthood.
Failure and rejection are your best friends.
Failing or being rejected never means you’re losing. These two things are more genuine to you than your highs. You can learn more from them than you can from success. They make you grow personally and professionally. These downsides of life strengthen you every time they occur.
Another thing to keep in mind is that you must not take them personally. That is where you might lose. Failures and rejections don’t define who you are. What defines you is how you handle them. It’s perfectly fine if you pine over them but don’t cry over them for so long that you lose track of what you’re trying to achieve.
If failure and rejection are your best friends, wait till you meet hope, which you sometimes don’t realize is there all along. With those three, your success in the future will be the most delicious thing you’ll ever taste.
Vulnerability is not weakness.
Many “strong” people think that if they cry in front of their friends or family, they’d be accused of someone weak. Well, isn’t hiding your vulnerability much more of a weakness?
Pretending that you’re not vulnerable when you really are creates more problems for you. You bottle up these feelings until you lash out and burst onto someone or something one day, which can cause costlier damage. Not only will you hurt yourself, but you’re loved ones as well.
The truth is sharing vulnerability builds a stronger connection. This is, of course, if you pick the right people you share your problems with. Vulnerability makes you more genuine and makes you have a neutral perspective that you can use to make better choices in life. Accepting and sharing it will help you along the way. With this, people who care for you will understand you and eventually build an unbreakable bond with you.
Another thing that many seniors wished they had done during their younger days is to move more. If you’re not a gym junkie, exercise doesn’t have to be heavy or exhausting. It can be just simple outdoor activities like running, cycling, and walking. Walking daily now will make a tremendous difference for you as you get older.
No matter how hard you try to manage your life and how sure you are of things, there will always be uncertainty, and it will hit you the less you expect it.
So instead of worrying, embrace uncertainty. Accept that it’s a part of life that you can never get rid of. As you grow older, things will get more difficult, unsure, and ambiguous. Unpredictability is what makes life exciting and what keeps you grounded. You won’t handle hardships the way you should if you expect things to always go your way.
The best thing to do is control your expectations and set realistic goals that will bring you forward to take well-calculated risks.
Budgeting is everything.
During your twenties, while retirement seems such a long way (and it is), it’s never too early to think about your future financial stability. But this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go out there and get more experiences. Money is just a number, but at the same time, it’s one of the most valuable things we must have.
There are multiple strategies you can do to save money and still have fun. Budgeting is first and foremost. Keeping track of what you spend your money on is a lifesaver, especially in the long run. Organize your money according to where you want to spend it. Daily necessities, travels, luxuries and hobbies, insurance, and charity, for example.
Once you get more stable in your thirties and plan to buy your own home, you can get a home loan. Or better yet, a multifamily loan for more income in the future.
It’s completely natural not to know these things as you grow up. Learning is part of life’s adventure. The more you learn, the more you can impart knowledge to younger people or the next generations if you’re lucky enough to live that long.